Monday, February 2, 2009

fake confidence

Some one at some point said these words, 'fake it, til you make it.' Okay, so that means that you sort of act like who or what you want to be. For example, if you want to be happy, you smile and perhaps just the act of smiling will make you feel better. It actually does work.  But does it work for confidence (or lack thereof) when you do public speaking? That is the question.

I'm attending another one of my evening classes on public speaking. It's my third one. And I'm finding myself getting more nervous rather than less. Not sure if that's normal, or not. But what I want to try tonight, is to fake confidence. This involves looking people in the eye when you talk, not twiddling or clicking (very annoying) pens while you're delivering your speech, and moving around in a casual sort of way, instead of holding tight to the 'box' - sorry the name escapes me at the moment.

Right, I am going to fake my confidence, by smiling into everyone's eyes and showing them I think they are important. I'm not even going to bring my pen up front, and I'm going to stroll around casually, pretending that speaking in front of peers who are ready and willing to evaluate my performance is something I'm comfortable with.

Right. Fake confidence. I'll try.  

I am truly excited about the topic tonight. It's show and tell and the prop I'm bringing is a piece of red granite - I consider it my talisman - straight from my grandfather's field out in Federofka. Maybe there's power in that granite.

4 comments:

Barrie said...

I'm definitely all about faking it when it comes to public speaking. And the red granite will make it all good. :)

Barrie said...

:)Oh yeah, and Gabe, if I give you my kids' cell phone numbers, would you call them and tell them I'm cool?!

Stacy Nyikos said...

Yep, definitely fake it. When I speak, the five minutes before I start are sheer terror. Every time, I have to convince myself not to run away. Then, once I get going. It all gets better. Fake it, nail your feet to the ground, whatever it takes.

Barrie said...

And having seen Stacy speak, let me just say that she looks as cool as a cucumber!